Starting Putting Your Time & Effort Into The Right People

put your time and effort into the right people

It’s taken me until the age of 28 to realise just how important it is to put your time and effort into the right people. It feels like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders when you let go of someone who doesn’t deserve your friendship. The people you surround yourself with are crucial to your happiness.

It’s easy to get carried away and feel like you owe someone something, when you don’t. Time you spend worrying, getting upset or making an effort for someone who doesn’t have your back is better off spent with people who really care about you.

If you have been friends with a person for a long time, or been through tough times together it can be extremely difficult to let go. But these aren’t reasons to keep someone in your life if they are having a negative influence on you. When I say negative influence I don’t just mean the people who overtly set out to upset you, but also the people who don’t make an effort and fail to value your friendship.

We only have a certain amount of time on this planet, so why would we want to waste precious moments with the wrong people?

Most people can count their closest friends on one hand, because there are only a few people that we can really trust and completely rely on. If you are unsure about a friendship for any reason then the chances are it probably won’t work out anyway, so why drags things out.

This might sound like it’s coming from a very negative place, but it’s not. I am sat here writing this post, feeling positive because I know I am surrounded by people who I know will be there when push comes to shove. Yes, I have lost a few friends along the way, but it doesn’t help to dwell on these things.

There is no point holding any grudges, all you need to do is move on. You can enjoy the time you spend with your real friends more, knowing that you don’t have to carry the burden of a stale friend anymore. Also, if you show that you are annoyed or hurt, that just demonstrates to the person who has hurt you that you still care, when you really shouldn’t.

Choose the people you surround yourself with wisely. They need to make you happy, be reliable and most importantly, be trustworthy. It isn’t easy to truly trust people these days. The people who you let into your life should also accept you for who you are. Don’t try and pretend to be anything that you are not, because you will just end up attracting the wrong people.

We form real friendships with people for a reason, because they learn to love us for who we are. There’s no better feeling than spending time with your best friends and feeling comfortable enough to truly be yourself.

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Here’s a few simple tips on the sort of people you don’t need in your life.

  • If someone consistently doesn’t make an effort to meet up with you/contact you/speak to you then let them go.

  • If someone hurts you don’t give them the opportunity to do it again.

  • If someone treats those you love badly then cut them loose.

  • If someone tries to turn you into something you are not, they don’t really know you.

  • If someone constantly lets you down stop letting them.

Instead, surround yourself with people who:

  • You enjoy spending time with.

  • Can have a laugh with.

  • You can rely on to be there when the sh** hits the fan.

  • Will stand up for you when necessary.

  • Accept you completely for who you are.

  • Make an effort to see you and speak to you.

So there you have it. I dare you to go away and have a long, hard think about the people in your life. What do they add to the equation? Are they worth your time?

Just make sure you only work hard on the friendships you cherish the most.

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